Hi, I'm Lucinda.
Psychotherapist turned Divorce Recovery Coach for women and moms.
I am not your average coach. I have more than 19 years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist. I have also gone through my own divorce. What I have learned, is that women who have gone through divorce are some of the strongest women I know.
I love to help divorced women TAKE CHARGE to define their new identity as a single woman (and mom), GAIN CLARITY around dreams they have for their future and RECLAIM their awesomeness.
While divorce can be devastating, shame-filled, confusing and just downright sad, it can also be one of the most defining experiences of your life.
Let me help you create a life you love after divorce!
I love watching women transform and blossom into the best version of themselves with more confidence, more hope and LESS FEAR about what's next.
Why? Because I went through my own transformation after my divorce. Life kicked me in the ass and I had to get back up and OWN IT. Now I can work with you to develop the strategies YOU need to get you where you want to be!
I went from being stuck in an unhappy marriage, to being divorced with two very small children and struggling financially, to meeting the love of my life and working for myself.
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I made the scary but courageous decision to get divorced at age 32.
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I was a struggling single mom to two small kids (4 years old and 8 months old) for four years.
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I refused to believe that my life couldn't be awesome (EVEN THOUGH there were days when this felt impossible).
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Today, I'm a "new" wife, sports mom, step-mom, dog mom, business owner, BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR and...lover of life.
Never in a million years did I think that when I got married at age 26 that my marriage would end in divorce 6 1/2 years later. My parents have been married for more than 50 years!
This was NOT the life I had envisioned for myself and it certainly was not the circumstances in which I wanted to raise my two kids.
I had to mourn the loss of the marriage and family I thought I'd have.
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For a long time, I wondered "why me?"
- Why did I marry the wrong guy?
- Why did I have to be a single mom who worked 2 jobs?
- What did I do to deserve such a hard life?
- How come everyone else's life seems so damn perfect?
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I felt like no one understood me or what I was going through.
- None of my family or friends were divorced.
- I felt like I had no where to go to for the support I needed.
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I made excuses as to why my life couldn't be better.
- My kids were my priority...I was a mom first.
- Self-care felt SELFISH.
- I had to work two jobs to pay my bills.
- I felt like I didn't have the time or resources (or energy) to make life better for myself.
But guess what? I was copping out. It's so easy to blame others for your unhappiness. It's so convenient to say "I have no time". It's so easy to stay stuck right where you are because let's face it...sometimes stuck feels comfortable and safe.
Change is hard. I get it. But no one is going to walk into your life and make it better for you. YOU are in charge of your own happiness. And if you are ready to take your "new" life by the horns (wait, is that a thing?), then I'M READY TO HELP YOU DO IT. NOW IS YOUR TIME!
If you're ready to fast track your healing, define your new identity and start building your NEW life post-divorce, book your complimentary consult!
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